I've been sitting here staring at the computer screen, racking my brain to try to find some clever way to start this post.
It's not working.
Max's 30th birthday was this past Saturday.
We had a fun time going out to dinner with some friends.
We then went with his sister Nalu to see "What to expect when you're expecting".
{bad movie. fun time. but really, bad movie}
The events of the evening made for a really late night.
note: We're getting old. ha.
10 am came surprising early on Sunday morning.
We usually have 1pm church, but this week was regional conference.
Due to our late night escapades, we ended up being a little late for church.
And thus we learned how humungous our stake really is.
They divided our stake into portions to attend at different buildings.
And there was still no room in the inn.
We ended up sitting in what looked to be the scout room and listening to the conference on the overhead speaker.
Advantage: I think I actually paid more attention this way.
Elder Holland and President Uchtdorf both spoke.
I learned that Elder Holland used to live in Davis county.
I also learned that Pres. Uchtdorf currently does.
6.0 miles from our house to be exact.
{I may, or may not have stalked him on whitepages.com}
I thought his address would be blocked. It wasn't.
Anyway,
Elder Holland spoke about the importance of meetings.
At one point in his talk, he asked each person to think of one change they had made in their lives as a direct result from something they heard in this past conference.
And then he sat, or stood I assume, there quietly for a few moments giving us time to reflect.
wow.
{I challenge you to do the same. right now.}
So, continuing on with my thoughts.
I could remember a few of the talks from conference relatively well.
Even things which I thought were important for me to hear.
But, unfortunately, if I were truly being honest with myself, couldn't say that I have made direct changes to how I lead my life, my focus, etc.
If I've learned one thing about life, it's that it is never too late to start.
So I made it a point to start.
I knew that I wanted to focus on Elder Uchtdorf's talk.
But I didn't really know how I would go about doing that.
That afternoon, I re-read the talk, then watched it a couple of times.
Finally, I found what I had been looking for.
"When our hearts are filled with the love of God, we become “kind one to
another, tenderhearted, forgiving [each other], even as God for Christ’s
sake [forgave us]."
"The
pure love of Christ can remove the scales of resentment and wrath
from our eyes, allowing us to see others the way our Heavenly Father
sees us: as flawed and imperfect mortals who have potential and worth
far beyond our capacity to imagine. Because God loves us so much,
we too
must love and forgive each other."
And so, I found the key.
The key to not being judgemental.
The key to not being harsh.
They key to not feeling resentment.
The key to forgiveness. Of myself and of those around me.
I just need to focus on the love of God.
In the past, it's been easy to find justifications.
But this...or but that...
But I have found through this week that when I find myself feeling these feelings, instead of focusing on that, I just turn my thoughts to the love of God.
It has helped.
I am not perfect at it.
maybe one day I will be.
I end with this excerpt from Elder Uchtdorf's talk:
"When
our hearts are filled with the love of God, something good and pure
happens to us. We “keep his commandments: and his commandments are not
grievous. For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world.
The
more we allow the love of God to govern our minds and emotions—the more
we allow our love for our Heavenly Father to swell within our
hearts—the easier it is to love others with the pure love of Christ. As
we open our hearts to the glowing dawn of the love of God, the darkness
and cold of animosity and envy will eventually fade."
I am so grateful for the loving, wise counsel of the Prophet and apostles. We can keep doing what we have always done and still be good people. But in order to grow and develop ourselves more fully, it requires effort and stretching experiences. I am grateful for that reminder.